Basketball thoughts: Jordan’s last three mins and Kobe’s last three mins and Lebron and Kobe’s last three minutes

Jordan was calm having made so many clutch shots. That little push from his opponent, a step back, and a swift finish to lead his team to a 3-peat, his sixth championship. It was too late for the Utah Jazz; Stockton seemed nervous at the last offensive opportunity and perhaps also made the mistake of… Continue reading Basketball thoughts: Jordan’s last three mins and Kobe’s last three mins and Lebron and Kobe’s last three minutes

甘今金句

首先和最後,要多謝朋友和自己的內在智慧。 “對得住上帝已經ok,唔駛對得住所有人。” “將你想睇到嘅畫面擺埋係prayers入面。” “尊重個timing。” “華人少咗欣賞同埋感恩。” “神的旨意是塑造自己的過程。” “其他人的福祉與自己的福祉是同一回事。” “投降和順服。” “如何謹守良心。” “要睇聖經,要做。” “留畀個仔。” “智慧嘅開端,是了解邪惡。” “可唔可以講句thank you阿 :D” “令你有passion嘅嘢,有talent,有personality的。” “創業是有無限個挑戰。” “你要保守你心,勝過保守一切,因為一生的果效是由心發出。” “事奉。” “關於別人的感受,盡量以對方的感受出發。” “說誠實話 = 保守良心” “有一份安全感先會open up。” “點樣先係對對方好?”呢個係一個life long的功課。” “欣賞神的創造力。” “你唔係一個人。” “我哋都係一樣搵緊。” “小的細節也想得到。” “我而家in progress。” “嘗試扭動噻了好耐的齒輪,會想嘗試新的東西,是一個過程,在每一個階段不停重新尋找意義。” “會有啲辛苦。 “清楚自己價值。” “你準備好被愛未呀?” “你講下妳五樣欣賞自己嘅嘢。” “任由唔開心嘅嘢出現。” “唔會沉溺。” “搵個答案出嚟。” “有個性。” “清楚自己需要。” “唔會迷失自己。” “最近,成日打冷震。” ” 無希望都係一種平安,又可以是種悲哀。” “好同壞?定左同右?” “唔係壞咗,係有不明白的需要。” “有老婆可唔可以對其他女仔有性幻想?” “唔緊要啦,我哋一步一步嚟。” “尊重番個timing。” “IG=形象最大化。” “甘心樂意去奉獻。” “可以用時間代替金錢。”… Continue reading 甘今金句

零的感覺

今天,一如過往的兩個月,起床的時候都覺得沒有充分休息好,腦袋充滿無情的雜念。在地鐵車廂內,睡眼惺忪的我見證了一個小小的奇蹟:眼前的三位都是同樣繞著雙手,靜靜地坐著;在這不經意的秩序中,我看見了一種奇妙。我閉起雙眼,拋開腦袋,靈感突然閃過:要愛別人,是要放棄控制,全盤交出自己,闖進未知,進入零的感覺。 每次看到你,這種零就變成了混亂又溫暖的無極限,是種令人窒息的感覺。我想表達,卻欲言又止,亦彷彿感受到你緊張的情緒:不斷思考工作,尋找話題,或者以手機填滿空氣中的沉默。我常常在想:「為什麼我們除了工作,就沒有其他話題?」或許正正是因為我們想得太多,所以就沒有話題了。倒不如我們接受,臣服於這種沉默。 有時候,我覺得我們都很相似:內心很脆弱,被踐踏後受了傷,都假裝作沒什麼的模樣;築起圍牆,戴上頭盔,掛起笑臉,讓自己感覺安全無恙。看著你,我內心的圍牆感覺將要成為頹垣敗瓦,我頓時變得很不自在。究竟這種是何方神聖的感覺呢?不是那激烈澎湃的巨浪,而是一種悠然自得的淡水。這就是我想要的親密嗎?還是我們都只是朋友呢?無論如何,為什麼我不能在你面前脆弱,坦誠面對自己的感覺?

終極原諒是承認惡的價值

「如果我不相信別人,就等同於我不相信自己。」她說。 這都不一定是真的。世界上有著太多不同的經歷,我們無法明白每個人的動機和心理;而皆因人類的天性都以自身生存作前提,所以我們會有防禦機制;我們會運用腦袋,以經驗及知識幫助我們分析及判斷好壞,確保自身安全。要假設世界都是內心的投射,都是以自己的過去認知而產生的想法,我們亦同時忽略了別人的動機、表情和態度,否定了自己的直覺及判斷能力。 唯有從經歷和自我探詢中,我們才能深切了解自己的情緒和傾向,認清在什麼時候我們在投射,什麼時候我們在判斷。假若我們從來沒有給予其他人機會表達,給自己機會了解他人,就已經判定他人的個性和情操,很有可能是心理投射。不過,心理投射說到底都只是一個單面向哲學觀點,以唯心主義的角度出發看世界。假設在某個時空,大部分的人都因為苛刻的生存條件而變得自私,變成了社會的客觀狀態,我又豈能盲目選擇相信,放下一切防衛地以善良與世界接軌?我仍然是在投射,還是以理性分析,避免承受不必要的傷害,作出對自己負責任的選擇? 在靈性修行中,我們常說要為自己負上百分百責任,聽起來是個烏托邦世界中人類能達致的終極境界。以現時的集體意識而言,普遍的人仍然未有足夠的修為去理解真正無條件的寬恕。所以,如果我們的目的是改善關係,我們必須要透過坦誠溝通,互相訴諸情緒和觀點,尋求進一步的修正空間。如果我們都選擇為自己所有情感行為負責任,或說要一切從未發生,只是腦袋產生妄念,亦是一個自私的行為。因為我們同時亦奪去了其他人在關係中需要修正的地方,間接地中斷了溝通的橋樑。我認為,我們不能忘記自己仍是血肉之軀,經歷七情六慾都是個必經階段,要勇敢地承認、感受、表達、處理和放下,才能真正修行。

aesthetics and objectification

sometimes humans become emotional after hooking up with other beautiful humans because they feel the post-aesthetics emptiness so deeply. when we call one beautiful, we are projecting our idea or perception of beauty onto the other. beauty connects and evokes one’s emotions and thoughts. beauty invites empty attachments; without knowing one deeply, yet wanting to… Continue reading aesthetics and objectification

To Son from Another Mother

Listening to Jordan Peterson reminds me of you. I think he speaks to you and I, an over-consumed generation with lost responsibilities, commitment and ethics. Young people without a strong role model or family support can easily feel dehumanized in a capitalist-dominant society such as Hong Kong, where prices will always almost precede morals. Then,… Continue reading To Son from Another Mother

On Constitution of Sex

Separation of sex from love is the same as separation of church from state. The first amendment not only allows humans the freedom to have sex of their choice, but also prevents any social conventions or values from creating bias and shame. Consent is of top consideration in any sexual matters, followed by safety measures.… Continue reading On Constitution of Sex

On Playful Violence

Some of us like to get tied up by ropes, surrounded by strangers, privately. Some of us like to play with knives, submerged in innocence, childishly. There is a dark desire in the heavy air, yearning to be destructed by a power so almighty. It is only powerful because it is consensual. Some of us… Continue reading On Playful Violence

On Self-Judgment

Some of us are willing to pass judgment on just about anything, especially in domains in which they have zero knowledge. Some of us wake up from a momentary lack of awareness, and choose to acknowledge their zero knowledge, and become daring to know and to question, in the face of rejection and confusion. Some… Continue reading On Self-Judgment